Now, therefore, you are no longer strangers and foreigners, but fellow citizens with the saints and members of the household of God, – Ephesians 2:19
There is a desire built within us to want to belong. Obviously for some this desire is stronger than others and yet in a few maybe it doesn’t appear that strong at all, but for the most of us, it is a part of who we are. This is why things like peer pressure are so powerful, and groupthink and acting like the crowd so prevalent. For a Christian, we share two seemingly contradictory concepts, an answer for belonging and a peculiarity among the crowds.
We are told on many occasions that Christians are to not seek the world, or the things of the world, as John says “Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him.” (1 John 2:15 NKJV). Paul tells us to not conform with our world, “And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.” (Romans 12:2). Yet, we feel this tug to belong and be a part of the world around us.
For Christians, the tug or battle between belonging and conforming to God seems a never-ending struggle. Certainly, it is a difficulty that remains ever before us, but maybe we are not looking at in a full view. God has not left the desire that He created in us for fellowship and feeling a part of our world unanswered, He just answered it in a more blessed way. He has called us to be a part of His family and Christians to be a part of one another. God, “from whom the whole family in heaven and earth is named,” (Ephesians 3:15) has lifted us up and made us a part of His family. So it is ok if we seem a bit peculiar to the world, God has given a place of belonging far greater than the world can.
But you are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people for his own possession, that you may proclaim the excellencies of him who called you out of darkness into his marvelous light. – 1 Peter 2:9 ESV